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Going through a hard time? 5 key mindset shifts that helped me through

Updated: Dec 12, 2022

If you're going through a difficult time and need some words of encouragement, hope, and wisdom from someone who's going through a difficult time too, you're in the right place.

I've had a tough past few months myself recently. Can you relate to being so consumed by your problems and what's going on that you feel like you're falling apart? Your problems feel so big that you're completely engulfed in them and desperately trying to fix things? You're not able to focus, do much of anything, and feel lost on what to do to make things better? That was me.

If you can relate, let me first just say that you're not alone. This is part of being human, specially if you're playing big in life. Playing big can look like having big goals and dreams and going after them, or it can look like caring about causes beyond yourself like the welfare of your family, community, or the state of the world.

Having carved out more time to look after my own mental health and now being on the other side, I feel mentally and emotionally good again. So I thought it might be helpful to share my recent experience with you on how I've come to be mentally ok, have hope, and peace in my heart again even though the actual situation hasn't changed yet.

I believe that sharing our struggles authentically can be very helpful and healing. So I hope this can help you to overcome what you might be going through and help create the outcome you want to see. And, if nothing else, to know that we're all in this together.

What's happening in my life and my recent crisis

I'm going to share a bit about my life and what I'm currently going through. And although your situation may look different from mine, I invite you to see how it may relate in your life.

In the past few months, there's been a lot going on in my home country of Iran. You might have heard by now that people in Iran are being brutalized by a theocratic dictatorship government as they fight for their fundamental human rights (see here to find out more). They have been cut off from the internet and there's been harsh crackdowns by the government's military guards in an effort to silence and suppress the uprisings.

This is the country I was born in and lived in for my first 9 years of life. A piece of my heart and soul is in this country. Nearly all of my extended family are still there - my cousins, aunts, uncles... I have no guarantees of their safety, and it's been heartbreaking seeing the mass detainments, killings and the brutal force being used on innocent people.

There is also a real possibility that I may never be able to return to my homeland and see my family again. It's been an extremely tough time for myself and many Iranians in the diaspora, not to mention Iranians inside of the country.

So with everything going on, I felt an extreme urgency to act and stop everything I was doing. I put a lot of my business and personal life on hold. This further sucked me deeper into feelings of anxiety, anger and helplessness which really took a toll on my mental health. It had me feeling nearly debilitated and burnt out. On one hand, I really wanted to help and knew I had to continue my efforts, and on the other hand I was starting to fall apart.

Have you ever had that dilemma? Where you feel like you have to choose between yourself and something/someone else that's really important to you? There's a lot at stake but you feel like you're falling apart. You feel like you're not doing enough but you don't know if there's any more of you to give. When there is just too much uncertainty, too much pain, too much not going right. That's how I was feeling.